but because he’s never managed to actually penetrate a woman, he’s still obsessed with “childish” things.
Meanwhile, we live in a culture that glorifies male sexual conquests even as it pathologizes male sexuality.
We are taught to measure a man’s value by the number of sex partners he’s had; the more women he’s seduced, the greater the value.
There is no difference between a person who has had sex and someone who hasn’t.
Even a woman’s hymen is no demarcator of virginity; many will rupture their hymen long before they’ve had penetrative vaginal intercourse.
Men are under as a rite of passage to adulthood is a deeply entrenched one; thus, men carry around the idea that you are still just a boy until you’ve managed to actually ejaculate into another person’s vagina, no matter how old you may be equates virginity with childhood.
Steve Carrell’s character may be middle-aged with a steady job, a sizable apartment, a car and presumably relatively debt free…
It won’t magically give you confidence that you didn’t have before, it won’t change how you think or make you empirically more or less attractive.