I've never felt like this, so it's hard for me to turn my back on it just because they aren't happy with it. Coming from experience, it is really up to you if it is worth it. I am trying to be patient as he's asked me to do so.
I feel that if he loves me like he says he does then he should feel and do the same. I think that being with a divorced guy with kids really depends on the situation. I include him in all aspects of my life: I got him on my softball team, he's met/hung out with my friends multiple times, he's met my family, I invite him everywhere. I am dating a man with 2 sons from his ex-wife and a daughter with his ex-gf.
It your happy right now, you should keep going with it. I feel like I am not included in the most important aspect of his and it hurts. I am an Asian, we don't believe in divorce and that sort of thing. I am in this dilemma as I am also not sure if we will have a good future together...he's hesitant to get married and not so sure of having another child.
He wanted to be 100% sure that I was right for his familym, not just him. I tried everything to make it work I married him, and we eventually had a son.
Once the kids and I met (about 6 months into our relationship) we hit it off, and it's been great. But it always seemed like I was trying to get attention from him.
What reason does he have for not doing it for eight more? Let them feed off your positive energy & be sure to mention what an admirable, inspiring man you have -yes, as much as possible, even if their stares become ice cold and their words fade into silence... I do understand where he is coming from, although I also definitely understand where you are coming from. For him, it is probably easy to get into the routine with just his kids (not that he is trying to set you aside). I have spent time (dinner...3 times) with the 15 yr old daughter and met the 10 yr old son.